When someone ‘has cancer’, the whole family and everyone who loves them does too. They all become part of the cancer club. However the needs of the carer are often overlooked. Everyone asks how the person living with cancer is. Very few ask how the carer is. The carer doesn’t mind as their focus is on the person living with cancer — their purpose in life is to do everything they can to “make it better”, knowing deep down that they can’t make it…